Baby born, separated, WH moving overseas for OW

[newmama]

he says most men stray because the OW makes them feel wanted, loved and appreciated. I failed in one way or another in these areas. After 15 years, resentments build up.

yes...I definitely relate. It is wrong for people to blame the WAS 100% (IMO).

Now, as for him not seeing the baby before he leaves. ??? I have no words. It won't be the last you have heard of him, though. Remember Allen's words about the man-child making his own journey. And let yourself feel the pain and be sad and grieve. I know you won't get stuck! I say grieve because no matter the future, your old marriage is over and the way you and your H related to each other in the past is long gone. If you R one day, it will have to be fresh, don't you think? Meaning that it is okay to permanently let go of the current H. It has taken me 15 months to do this* (and my relationship was way shorter than yours) so I am not trying to tell you that you should be able to just forget and forgive overnight. Just let yourself think, reflect, feel, and picture it happening so that it can.

Ok I really hope that came out the right way and it didn't make you upset. (((Piano)))


*well, I am still not 100% there yet, but a lot farther than I was