I gave up...filed for D

[punkin]

luv,

Sorry about your gma. It's tough enough going through these times and then lose someone in your life that has always been there for you.

I know all about the cycling. I've been up, down, completely backwards. You've been doing this apparently for a long time. Be good to yourself. I've always read on this site that you will know when it is time to stand down, and if you've reached that point, I admire your courage and resolve.

Isn't it always at your weakest point that the rat Bast34ds turn on you and look human again?

[alice444]

Finally got some down time. I have been avoiding anything that has to do with my divorce IF at all possible. It's kind of hard when you get an email from the enemy. I can't believe I hate to see my former husband's name in my inbox. It used to make me smile....anyway whatever.

I've been through a lot guys. On Wed morning I got a call at 1:30am from my mom crying saying my gma was dying. She has been sick but this was a bad turn for her. I rushed to the hospital and spent 10 hrs there. She died at 8am. It was so sad.

(((Luv))) Again, I am so so sorry about your grandma. That is just terrible.

I was tired. I got a $55 ticket at the hospital parking lot and then later got a speeding ticket (was going flow of traffic) How lucky can I get huh? The week before my lawnmower and vacuum broke - my tire popped too and there went $240 on top of everything else. Someone was testing me.

After gma died I was tired and just wanted go home but I decided to take my kids out to lunch. I was fine...tired but fine and then! I get a text from my former husband that says, "I just heard about grams I'm so sorry I loved her too" and then it was like someone socked me in the stomach. That minute my sister calls and says are you ok? I said, "I was fine until I got a text from him." She says, "don't worry luv I will be here for you if he isn't going to be." Then I just couldn't hold it in...I started crying like crazy at the table..tears everywhere. I have never ever done that in my life. Maybe because at that moment my former husband sounded human again...and how he wasn't here for me to cry on his shoulders.

I really hope 2011 will be better for all of us. When it rains, it pours, doesn't it? And this smaller stuff snowballs when all of the other awful stuff has already come before it -- something we might've rolled with if things were going great suddenly hits us so hard, doesn't it? I have had this similar breakdown, once at daycare picking up my D and once in my dance class. These were in front of non-family and not super-good friends. It sucks, but people understand and there's no reason for you to feel bad or that you backslid or anything. I think this is just part of the (why the hell is it taking so darn long) process we all have to go through now. It is interesting though- it would make it easier if they weren't nice through this period. If they were jerks consistently, it would make it easier to forget they used to be nice and loving; when that old one peeks through, it's almost harder to take, I totally can relate to that.

It was everything all coming crashing down at once. My avoidance got to me. I left the restaurant and that's when I got the ticket. I went home and cried myself to sleep. I kept thinking. My gram was so special to me...she is the one who told me, "you are going to marry him." I used to laugh and say, "no I'm not." All I kept thinking was little did I know the death of my marriage would be in 2010. The same year she was going to die. It made me very sad.

I haven't been sleeping too well lately but my sister and other family members came from out of state to visit. It's been nice having everyone around. I have enjoyed the time. The funeral was sad yet it reminded me how important family is. We might not see each other all the time but nothing can replace it.

Despite the sad reason for everyone to be there, I'm glad you had your family around you for awhile. People love and care about you and I hope you're able to take that in and lean on them as you need to.

I'm going to get back to healing. It seems as though I took a little dip and need to spring back up. I feel like just giving up then I snap myself out of it. I always thought I could get through a divorce but I was wrong.

Well I hope this wasn't too long but I wanted to update you on what's been going on with me. My former husband does not want to pay school tuition (or says he can't) and that makes me ill because he is buying himself a new car. I guess what I've been trying to deny this whole time is just the truth - he doesn't care.

I don't expect this down cycle to last long because I'm getting pissed. I refuse to allow someone to make me feel sad. He just isn't worth it.

Luv

Well, I LIKE that last part! Let's all get mad at how miserable they've made us- that will help, I think. When we let them continually rob us of being happy we give them too much power. Btw, you ARE getting through this- you know that, don't you? Every day you wake up and drag yourself out of bed, are there for your kids, do what needs to be done and get yourself through the day, no matter how good or bad you felt, you are getting through it. It feels like sh!t, but you're doing it, Luv.

He is an ass. How dare he buy himself a car and not pay for school. Did you tell your L this? Are you getting any more $ help at all from him?

I think of you often- and your D- and always look forward to your updates

-A

[LSG]

Luv,

My heart goes out to you. I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your grandma. You have had a tough time lately. I am so glad that you have had family around to support you. We support and care about you her too. You are very dear to all of us here, and we are just saddened by the pain and hurt you are experiencing.

I am glad you are keeping strong during this "down cycle."

My heartfelt prayers are with you, your kids, and grandma.

(((hugs)))

[luvless]

It's been sad and rough but dammit I'm trying to hang in there. I love the support here...thanks to all of you.

My attorney just called..evidently the opposing counsel has not responded to any of the letters sent so we're going to court. Here we go

I am having the pleasure meeting two of my DB friends this week. It sucks that this is how we got to know each other but it's exciting.

Stay with me guys. My 20th anniversary is next week and the thought of not making it is disheartening. Oh well I'm sure he doesn't care so whatever...

Luv

[CityGirl]

You know what? F*** him if he doesn't care because WE care!

You are hanging in there and I am so, so proud of you each day.

I want to come to the DB meetings! How fun! Funny how you (generally speaking) have to go through hell to meet some decent people!

xoxoxo!

[Gardener]

luv,

You know what? F*** him if he doesn't care because WE care!

You are hanging in there and I am so, so proud of you each day.

I'm with CG!!!!

Peace,

[luvless]

CG - you are something else but I love ya.

Thanks you guys. I humbly accept your support.

I'm having one of those sick to my stomach feeling days...you know the one where your DEADBEAT Xhusband doesn't want to pay his only daughter's college tuition?

He told my daughter "can your mom pay half?" sh*t!!! I WISH I had the capability to pay all of it then I wouldn't need a jerk like him to make my D feel like crap. I can't stand to see her worry about this.

I keep praying today that God gives me patience.

Luv

[luvless]

I got to meet Romeo and Mindfull in one day! How freaking great is that? I met them both this Saturday (at different times of course) but it was so nice. I am grateful to know such cool people.

Luv it!!

[givingitmyall]

I got to meet Romeo and Mindfull in one day! How freaking great is that? I met them both this Saturday (at different times of course) but it was so nice. I am grateful to know such cool people.

Luv it!!

That sounds pretty cool. How you been stranger?

[courageous wife]

OMG! Did you feel like you were meeting famous people? That is so awesome that you met them! Hope you are doing well!