I was so happy when I got home tonight! All three of my books arrived for the weekend.
I'm already over half-way thru "No More Mr Nice Guy"....all I have to say is WOW! Book is spot on with me! I think I found Robx's secret
I strongly urge ALL men read it. I also think that Women can really benefit from it too. It's definitely a message sent directly to Men, but WOW I see a lot of similarities in my W as well.
This self-help reading is a powerful tool and really hope everyone strives to better themselves during their difficult situations. Just remember, regardless of what happens with your relationship...you will always have to live with yourself.
I also wanted to add that today I received back to back texts one from "friend" and one from W. When I say back to back I mean less than a minute apart.
Friend sent first one asking if I wanted to go fishing tomorrow and the one from W was that she's bringing dog treats over tomorrow. I was like are they conspiring to get me out of the house? LOL (analyzing - STOP)
Friend called me later asking if I was ok and I told her I was doing great and I have plans most of the day tomorrow. Their going Silver fishing, but I'm a Trout fisherman at heart.
So no biggie, but just thought it was a weird coincidence.
My first successful week/weekend of me not initiating contact to wife.
Friday, she texted she would bring dogs some treats. NO SHOW. Felt a couple urges to bust her out on it, politely, but stopped that thinking and channeled my energy into GAL.
Went to the gym, bought some nice clothes, started reading "Ways of the Superior Man", some Bible reading, and went to my Sunday Meeting. I wanted to go workout again, but I'm so sore. Did yard work instead.
Just want to say I miss my W very much, but as I've began forgiving myself for my bad ways and reading "No More Mr Nice Guy" I've realized how much her and I are BOTH screwed up LOL. Also, every time I think about even remotely trying to find a way to initiate contact, I forced my self to do something else.
Feels good that no matter how much I love and miss her, that I put myself first for a change in a good way.
I'm already almost done with "Ways of the Superior Man" book. I had to stop because the knowledge I just took in is just un-real.
Let's put it this way, I'm so overzealous right now I just want to call my W and tell her everything. NOT GOING to, but really want to. LOL
LBH's, and any H who really WANTS to succeed in their M needs to read this Book. I've been an utter failure as a man to my W. Everything that Sandi2 has posted as a WAW is magnified by this book 10 fold. If you want to know what your W feels like or what she's thinking or why she is doing the things she is...you need to get this book NOW!
"No More Mr Nice Guy" is very revealing as to why I am the way I am and need to work on, but this Superior Man book is YOUR purpose and how you need to approach your life, your W, and your role in the M. It's simply eye opening.
I'm so caught up in Anger(@myself) and sadness right now it's not even funny. If, IF, my W even gives me an inkling of an opportunity, I know now what to do. Nothing has motivated me more to GAL and make immediate changes right now than these 2 books (AND all the valuable posts on this site).
Wonder what "Holding on to Your Nuts" has instore for me LOL
She actually asked ME, if "I had a good weekend". Nice.
I said I would let her know about the bills getting paid like a week ago and let her know when I finished transferring one of em over to my name. Since she sent me a "Nice" text I decided I'd call instead of emailing.
She was on speaker so had trouble understanding a couple things that she said, so when I asked for clarification she snapped LOL I didn't bite. Told her my weekend was good and asked if hers was. That was it.
She sounded irritable as usual, but actually was trying to communicate with me, but then felt her all of a sudden pull away and say she had to get ready for work. Said ok, thanks for returning my call, and have a good day.
Now I have nothing left to really talk to her about, so hopefully everything from here on "Is the squirrel eying the food in my hand"
I often try to tell a LBH that it doesn't do much good to try to convince his WAW of how much he loves her, how he will stick with the M regardless, on & on. The reason is simply this......if she is a true WAW in an A, then nothing like that is going to impress her. In fact, she feels so utterly turned off toward him that everytime he opens his mouth...she feels disgusted. Sorry to be so rough, but I'm trying to get the full impact of the statement through. One man told me that I was too "plain" and it hurt his feelings. Yes, it hurts--but how will he know what he's facing if somebody doesn't tell him the truth? WAW's can be very cold hearted b/c they are so "done" to the point of feeling sick at the thought of one more minute under the same roof with H. I don't think most men really "get" that. Maybe that's why many continue to "talk, talk, talk" to the WAW trying to convince her she doesn't know what she really wants. Now, that will get her mad!
Anyway, that is why not talking about the R is so important. It really is like poison every time he tries to reason with her.
