Had a very brief phone conversation with WAW today regarding a comment D19 made. One comment she made stood out - "you are on an emotional roller coaster, so I am keeping my distance, but I am not angry"
And I thought I was doing a good job not showing what I am feeling. Obviously my actions have been less than consistent.
Hello BTM
If she said that to you...
1) You're not detaching correctly and your "emotions" are on your sleeve like a Neon sign or 2) She's testing you to see how you react.
Go back and to Robx's posts and READ AGAIN!
Just want you to know I've only began on detaching from my W, this is the FIRST full week of not doing one damn thing to initiate contact. IT HURTS. I miss her a lot! However, my biggest gift I can give her is to leave her alone. The biggest gift I can give myself is to move on with my life and better it without constantly thinking about her(ez to say only)
Focus on these signs, focus on you, focus on what you did 2 years ago that made it better. Did you do the stuff for you or to get her back? If you did it for both, then this time do it for YOU so the changes can last.
I still have not even come close to detaching. I still think of WAW the moment I open my eyes and she's the last thing I think of before I close them at night.
I can't control my thoughts, but I can control my actions. I need to leave her alone and most importantly I need to GAL. It's the one aspect of dbing I know I suck at and yet, have made very little progress in.
