before I say anything to him....should I ??? OR should I keep my mouth shut ??
What do you want to accomplish aside from fighting?
Time would be better spent looking for ways to improve or suppliment your personal income (without sacrificing too much time with your daughters), IMHO.
What is your whole sit? Have you worked out a child support agreement or anything?
Anything likely to improve the future other than arguing is a better course, I think
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M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
I don't really want to argue with him, but I think it is awful that he is too busy to even call his Daughters over the weekend and since last wednesday but he obviously is having a fun time going to movies. We do not argue, I just think he might need a reminder that he has 2 Daughters here who can see this and, it is not hard to pick up a phone if he is too busy to see them.
We have not had a support date yet, it is set for October.
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
Unfriend him. Really, it's just going to continue to make you mad.
My STBXW and I have never been FB friends, but D11 is and she doesn't log off her page and then I can click on STBXW's -- and I rarely found much, but what I did just led to heartbreak and it got me focused again on HER when I should be focusing on ME.
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So far I have not unfriended him, one, because he is rarely on, two, and, I know this may sound weird but I wanted him to see that I am survivng and doing just find on my own. If that makes any sense.
I already feel better, since posting on here, I am trying to reamain dark as much as possible and I will let this pass too.
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
So this past weekend husband did not see our Daughters or even take the time to call and talk to them. He did call last night though and talked to them-Monday night. Last night I also sent him a message letting him know I wanted to go out this coming Saturday night, and asked if he would be interested in doing somethig with our Daughters. He responded with sorry, I can't this day. Ido not know what to think, this will be 2 weekends in a row he didn't see them and I know he has plans the following weekend.
I realize he wants to be on his own and away from me, but he needs to have some responsibilty when it comes to our Girls. We do not have any official custody agreement made up yet, but he needs to step it up. I am not sure if and what I should even say to him.
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
This one is a tough one. My H did the same thing for awhile. Until there is something legal or that you 2 have sat down and discussed, a visitation schedule, you can't MAKE him. You can ask to meet with him and discuss and schedule and go from there!
His relationship with his D's is up to him...
Your H sounds like he is in MLC!
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Unfortunately, there is nothing that you can do to make him be a father any more that you can make him be a husband. Even with a visitation order, it's up to him to comply. His relationship with the kids is his responsibilty, not yours.
Be truthful with your girls. Don't bad mouth him but don't lie or cover up for him either. They need to know that his choices are his decision. Belive me, when they tell him off for not showing up or refuse a phone call to get back at him, that will get his attention.
Thanks ! I know now I can't make him call, and see the Girls, I just can't believe he is acting this way. I know he doesn't want me in his life anymore, but I thought he would have more contact with the Girls, excpecially since this is still new and he has only been gone for a month.
Another problem I am having Is, yes, I am still his facebook friend, I know I need to unfriend him, I am just having a hard time doing it, I quess that means I am not really detaching. He is rarely on, although more so lately. I know this is not healthy. All I have to do is click it. I must be crazy, why would I want to remain FB friends with a man who doesn't want me in his life anymore.
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
I am really starting to see a pattern here. For most of the week I feel like a strong, confident woman making descisions for myself and for my Daughters, But after every Wednesday visit from the STBXH I am left again feeling unsure of myself and confused. He comes here to see the Girls and because he has no where to take them yet, he comes in sits down in the living room and starts to act like everything is normal, Yesterday he wanted to go into the bedroom, he was looking for his camera case, So I guess he going to taking pics some where, he then also said he cant see the Daughters this weekend because he is going to the shore with friends and he is going to borrow the 2 beach chairs we have.
He was too busy to see or call them last weekend, this weekend he is going to the shore with friends and next weekend he is going out of town for the weekend too. Why can't he take the Girls to the shore with him ?
I want to stop these visits where he comes in the house and act like everything is just fine and dandy.
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
