The Bombaversary is always hard. You are human and not a robot. The day will come and pass and the world will still be spinning no matter what. You will wake up the next day and it will be yet another thing you have conquered. You can do it.
As for the detaching. It is difficult to grasp when you are raw. But there comes a moment in time when you just get it. You detach. You live your life. Cut the rope that is binding you to the drama. You are only a hostage to it if you chose to be. And when you get there the detaching is no longer difficult.
Your wife does have emotions. She is human too. Let her sort out her emotions while you deal with yours.
