Wise words imLin. Ones that I had thought of, but at the same time, wanted to write personally for some stupid reason. On fancy writing paper in fancy script so he would know I was being sincere. Stupid, huh?
Rationally, I know he neither cares what I think or why. Just what he wants when he wants it. I blocked his phone, I may have to block his Email. He always says "I'm ready and willing to sit down and work out a settlement before this ends up in front of a judge." One would think that is the last place he wants to end up.
I do much better when there is no contact at all. Just have to wait this out another 90 days. I'm sure OW is pushing, but I heard through the grape vine that she isn't divorced yet either. I'm still pushing on the Court Martial and Prosecuting Attorney charges, too.
ImLin is a wise cookie. I'd let the lawyer handle it and you just step back. It is so very strange that your H is trying to do this with a divorce pending anyway.
You have no idea what your H may be cooking up and let's not forget the ow in this equation as you already know what she's capable of. Just protect yourself on all fronts.
If your H starts threatening you make sure to document. The more you can prove that he's off his nut the stronger your case if it should come to that. It just may be what is needed to prove your claims and your H can get the help he needs.
Use ImLin's suggestion and tell him to talk to your lawyer.
There's a reason you're going through all this Punkin. It will reveal itself in time.
Don't YOU be the one to tell him no...let the LAWYER tell him no...this way you can deflect some of the agression although he will still have a hissy-fit and insist that you can handle this not only without a judge but without a lawyer too!
That is when you tell him that you want to be "fair" and so as not to let your emotions cloud your judgement you feel it is best to rely on professional advice as to what is fair or not...
Deflect, deflect, deflect...this will save your sanity and drive OW absoluty more batty then she all ready is and H along with her...although this is not the motive, just a nice little side benefit of protecting yourself.
I plan to take your advice about the lawyer. For now just sit back and wait for him to contact me. He knows I'm in no hurry. I'm just the type of person that if there is something I am dreading, I'd rather jump in there and do it and get it over with. I have to sit on that instinct, too.
Who knows, as nutty as he's been, he may have found a new passion over the weekend and forgotten about the land/house. LOL
Update! No new passion. Already emailed me twice wanting to know about the papers. Says he has to go to Hot Springs tomorrow, could he swing by and pick them up. I don't believe he's going to give me the opportunity to have the lawyer write the letter. I'm going to have to say it.
If you have made up your mind that you will not be signing can you call you L and have him/her contact your H's L and tell them it's a no go? Have your L tell them to get in touch with your H right away.
If this is not possible can you have someone with you when meet up with your H? What about just sending an email with your answer?
