For some reason I feel very disturbed if someone (my H mostly) is upset. I feel compelled to do anything to make him happy and I find it hard to accept that sometimes he might just be in a bad mood and there's nothing that I can do about it (I am getting better at that though). I'm a perfectionist and I think it's to blame, I just wish everything could be butterflies and rainbows. Not very realistic, I know. I'm also a terrible optimist, which sometimes drives my H nuts. He does have problems with low self esteem so that's where it often clashes I think.
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
