Today on a slightly different note. I mentioned in my original post that my H told me he wasn't sexually attracted to me anymore. It wasn't just something he said in the heat of the moment during an argument, he mentioned it a few times and when I asked him more about it, it turned out to have started about 3 months ago. He still thinks I am very attractive, but just doesn't feel like having sex with me. He actually refused sexy pictures of me that I sent him one time, said he's seen pictures of me before and not to waste time with it.
This is an issue I am really worried about. With all other things, like our communication issues, I know that it's something that I know we can work on, it might not be the easiest thing but I know it can be done. But what about him not being attracted to me? There is literally nothing I can do there.
Today I got a glimmer of hope but at the same time I'm just scared. We talked in the morning and I mentioned going shopping with one of my girlfriends. He jokingly asked if I was going to buy lingerie (I love buying lingerie and he knows it). I said I didn't know and he said that it means yes and that I will have to show him what I get. He was being flirty, I kept it very light but positive. I said I needed to start getting ready and then he mentioned we'll need to get me a new webcam because he'd like to see me getting ready but the one I have is not very good. I again made a joke and we said bye.
So it all sounded good, but I am so completely unsure what to do about all this now?? I want this to turn out good but when he starts being flirty I feel like a deer in headlights, I'm terrified to mess it up. I don't know what to do to make him attracted to me again. I'm scared that something will go wrong and he'll just say "Oh, forget it. It's not working".
PLEASE HELP!
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
