my huband has called me everal times on the rbink of crying and i have taken his call once. Afetr i took his call and couneled him for half an hour and tried to make him feel better, i called a few days later and... cld as ice.... super polite, but cold. I'm sure it's some way of staying in control. But since then, he has called several times again and I haven't answered.. when he called, he spoke about feeling like a failure, and never being able to get anything right and how he felt overwhelmed and misserable. how maybe his job destroyed 'his personal life'. (not the personal ads and porn and abuse, right?). i just tried to build him up; i didn't say anything about how i know how it feels to be completely alone and abandoned. I just couoldn;t bring myself to take his call again. I felt used last time and I dont want to be used. he didn;t ay he wanted me back, he keeps saying in his messages he 'needs someone to talk to'. Isn't that what a marriage is for? I don't know. I miss him and don;t want him to stop calling, but I just feel like I shouldn't respond until and if he says he wants to change and realizes he was wrong, otherwise, I just end up being used and he gets the best of me without giving me anything. We are right about to finalize this thing. why is he doing this?? does he realize what he has done?
