What an inspiring weekend!!
Same thread as my last. Brooklyn just posted another "frame changer"

Originally Posted By: Brooklyn
Here's the thing. You are still trying to get into (her) head. You are wasting way too much time and headspace on (her). Don't.
You cant figure (her) out nor should you. There is no rationalizing (her) behavior because it isnt rational. (She)is in crisis. (She) is lost. But only (she) can find (her) way out of it.

Let (her).

Remember, you did the best you could during the marriage with the tools you had at the time. If you knew better, you would have done better. Hindsight is 20/20. Forgive yourself.

Now, you can either get mired in the shoulda,coulda, woulda mindset or you can use it to propel you forward.

First you need to figure out the things about you that need changing. Then get to gettin' on those.
Then you need to figure out the kind of person you aspire to be and how you can become that person.


And that's a BINGO!!

The biggest part of DETACHING from her is ATTACHING to ME