Refi went smoothly today. W is scheduled to go on Friday then the moving begins.
Another set back though for me tonight. I was putting some stuff in my W room and I came across her new birth control pills. She hasn't taken them for years but I guess she is active. I guess I already knew deep down but actually seeing them set me back.
It was upsetting to see but I imagine this will make me stronger.
M: 36 W: 29 S: 2.5 EA: 2/2010 OM1 D Bomb: 3/2010 PA: 6/2010 OM2 W moved out 8/2010 Loc: DE, USA
Another set back though for me tonight. I was putting some stuff in my W room and I came across her new birth control pills. She hasn't taken them for years but I guess she is active. I guess I already knew deep down but actually seeing them set me back.
It was upsetting to see but I imagine this will make me stronger.
I'm so sorry FFH. Just reading that made my heart drop and gave me a lump in my throat. I know that doesn't really help, but I feel really bad. I'm looking forward to getting separated myself. I think once I am out of the house I will be able to erase W from my mind for the most part, as long as I don't spend too much time alone.
Time to completely drop the rope man. You have got to get on with your own life and stop worrying about her. It is the most difficult thing you have ever done, but you have to accept that she is gone and begin to live your life for you and your son. As R2C likes to remind me, there are only 3.5 BILLION women on this planet and you will find someone you can be HAPPY with. Maybe even happier.
Or, maybe once you FINALLY drop the rope, she will see that you are no longer pursuing her and she will pursue you instead. But, YOU CANNOT RELY ON THAT CHANCE or you will never completely let go,which is what you HAVE to do.
C'mon buddy. You can do this. Be strong like I know you can. We will get through this together, chins up and PROUD of what we have accomplished.
Take care of yourself and continue to come back to BOTH gove and receive support from all of your NEW friends. We are here for you, if only electronically.
My STBXW closed on her home today and has moved 1/2 her stuff out today. Tomorrow she should all her stuff out. It feels good to know I won't have the drama happening right under my nose anymore. 5 months ago I never thought I'd start feeling normal again. If it can happen for me it can happen for you LBS. Thanks for all the support!!!!!!
M: 36 W: 29 S: 2.5 EA: 2/2010 OM1 D Bomb: 3/2010 PA: 6/2010 OM2 W moved out 8/2010 Loc: DE, USA
The STBXW has officially moved out and is on her own. The house is very empty. I guess like anything it will take some time getting used too. Anyway, it's nice having it to myself and I can focus on my life now.
During the move her sister and mother kept making comments to me that they think my W is making a huge mistake. They also made comments about how nasty W has become and doesn't know how to treat people. I just smiled and wished them all good luck......
M: 36 W: 29 S: 2.5 EA: 2/2010 OM1 D Bomb: 3/2010 PA: 6/2010 OM2 W moved out 8/2010 Loc: DE, USA
I'm with you there dad. I am looking forward to moving into my new home and being away from W. Unfortunately, that also means being away from the kids. W wants to take the kids away the week-end when I move because it will be too hard on them. I said to her, maybe they'll want to help me move. With the pool at the new house, I thought maybe we could even make it fun!
Hang in there FFH, things will get better. W just took my kids and their friends to the beach and I felt like tearing up for just a second, but thosse feelings are farther and farther apart these days.
It is interesting to hear the comments from your in-laws and they provide further proof that these WAW's really are messed-up. I have yet to talk to my MIL since our first conversation in June and I haven't talked to her other family members either, so it will be interesting to see them again eventually.
You are strong FFH. You will be fine, just don't spend too much time by yourself. Get out to the neighbors and chat with them. Find some friends to spend time with. Go to the gym. Just find something to relieve you from your thoughts.
Hang in there man. She may yet decide that she is making a mistake, just don't sit around and count on it.
please continue to let us know how things progress.
Lastnight was a good night. I went to a movie with a female friend. We talked for a little bit and I went shopping for the misc stuff W took to new place. It was quiet in the house but I'd have to say I got my first good night sleep in a long time.
I think the anxiety has gone away. Always wondering what W was doing, what time she comes home, who is she with. It really does help "out of sight out of mind".
M: 36 W: 29 S: 2.5 EA: 2/2010 OM1 D Bomb: 3/2010 PA: 6/2010 OM2 W moved out 8/2010 Loc: DE, USA
