Hope I'm not one to know what I'm talking about either. This detaching is killing me as well. My W will not have anything to do with me nor talk to me. So I been trying my hardest to GAL and stop wondering what she is doing ETC. It was good ant telling her you forgive her but I'd be cautious as not to push her farther away. When this started for me I pursued and begged and wrote every letter and card I could. I stopped totally July 30th. Just try and hang in there do things to help you detach and get your life going for you not her.
I wish you well

Mark

Me 36
WAW 24
S 4
D 2(My Kids/her step kids)
S15,D14,S10,D11
Love you but not in love with you 6/8/2010
Left/Bomb 6/20/2010
D filed 6/23/2010
M 4
T 5 1/2