WAW says she wants to come back

[Grocerykartman]

I think the bond between my daughter and myself is strong enough that she will never confuse him as her own dad, but I anticipate it will just devastate me if and when she finds out ways that she connects better with him too. I am not naive enough to think there won't be at least some instances where this will occur. It's one thing to lose your wife to an OM, but to lose your daughter too is the extremely hard part. Of course, I tell myself, welcome to divorce, kartman, there's nothing easy about this, especially if there's a child involved.

For months I have been doing my best to do everything as I normally would as far as disciplining my daughter. I know you can never worry about it being a popularity contest and the right thing must always be done in that regard. But I have tried to step up my efforts to show her a lot of fun things to do as well, stuff I did not do over the course of her young life. Of course its much easier now that she is almost 4 and can appreciate most places I take her. I wonder how I will get over the next time she, her mom, and OM do something fun and NEW together.

I have done my best to combat this so far, for example, we ended up taking her to Disney world this year. We agreed as parents to go do this so that we would be able to have that experience with her still as a family, placing no expectations on ourselves trying to work on anything. And we had a very good time as a family the whole trip. But, the more egotistical side of me said, look, over my dead body is she going to go there for the first time with her mom and OM instead of me. But I won't be able to do this with everything, and that's what I am having the hardest time with. Call it ego, call it fear, call it whatever it actually is, but I am unsure how to deal with it. I guess that is the kind of influence I mean. But, I want her to have my values, not this guy's. This guy's values fall into the homewrecking sort.

I wonder if this kind of worry is for nothing, or is it a real problem only if you don't do the right things as a divorced dad?