She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

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So Coach and I are sitting here remembering how we took those first reconciliation steps. And what I told him - and am sharing with you b/c I think it's very relevant - when I started making noises about wanting to come back to the marriage, I knew (b/c Coach made it clear) that dropping the D was a must, that moving home was a must. We talked about MC but that was not one of our conditions. And this is key - I had a strong sense at that time that Coach was not going to (pardon my French) dick around with me on this. I knew that he was not going to let me put one toe in to test the water before I took the plunge. He recognized that it was a big and difficult decision for me. He validated on that point. At the same time, he made it clear that WE had to be all in or all out. I didn't dare test that with him - I could see the strength in him and I showed the proper respect for our decision.

I think you should talk to her about it. Validate her reservations and concerns. But also communicate your position that it's all in or just stay out.

I want to repeat that this is a difficult decision for both of you. I hope she recognizes that you are taking a leap of trust with this, too.

Greek