-The affair makes me sick to my stomach. The thought of them disturbs me. Makes me angry.
Listen man. You just went through a very intense time focusing on nothing but the A.
It is time to detach from her and ALL her actions, convo's, texts, emails, letter's and carrier pigeon messages until you can do it without anger.
Got me?
Take yourself out of this sh!tstorm FIRST.
Then these
Originally Posted By: CD
I am disappointed in myself for letting the marriage deteriorate to this point. It didn't have to turn out this way.
-My biggest failing was putting up with crap attitudes and behaviour for far too long as well as "giving away" my friends, family and hobbies (thereby my self-respect and character in the process).
questions need to be answered.
Why did you do this? More importantly WHAT in YOU caused this to occur?
Also I have been thinking about your thread. And your age difference reallly stung didn't it?
Why? What were you seeking from your W? What part of you needed that validation and
Still needs it?
Originally Posted By: CD
How can I LEAD the Sep agreement process and still want her back?
May I suggest this is boundary to protect you. Financially and if you really need it...emotionally or
Originally Posted By: CD
How do I lead Separation without it coming off as an "affair busting and/or get her back" ploy?
Is it this?
Originally Posted By: CD
I need a "point" in the right direction.
CD you are in control of only you.
Go to the mirror and point straight into it...that
is the direction you need to go.
Be clear of what your are doing (sep agreement) and why.
If you are not sure.
Don't act.
Your actions(and inaction) speak the loudest.
Will it make you feel better if you initiate the sep or divorce?
Why?
You have time I think. Take it and use it my friend for YOU.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
