Hey Addie, I cant tell from your posts, but perhaps you have already tried this... can you just try and integrate into his student life? Does he go for coffee/drinks with them? Can you invite yourself along? Turn up unnannounced? Get involved so that it stops being so easy for him to be leading two separate lives? It kind of sounds like you have 'given up' and you dont push things with him at all, but let them slide (openness, retrovaille, passwords, friends you dont know about etc).
I was just wondering, if you tried to join in and he either reacted badly, or said no I dont want you there, that would be an opportune moment to ask.. "why not??". Or maybe you already tried this and got nowhere, hence the asking him to leave train of thought. But you have got this far, he must still be with you for a reason??
It does sound like he is treating your house and your R like a hotel..its horrible to be lonely within a relationship.
Al xx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
