Reflecting back on all the court/divorce proceedings, I wish I would have even took a harder stance on certain things. I think I was a little shell-shocked at how nasty and devious ex was. They do and will resort to anything to get their way.

I thought some way that if I treated ex nicely that he would come back or at least see the light. It does not matter what you do at this time. Nothing will change their behavior. They have to go and complete the journey. You have to protect yourself and stay one step ahead of them. Staying one step ahead of my ex meant the difference between being able to stay in my home and living on a park bench.

Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11