Another sad story

[john28]

Now, that's forward progress PH. She came to you and said she wants to work on this, but can't promise anything. That's good.

Now, you need to remain "as if" you don't know what you want. If she sees you pounce on this opportunity to work on things, you're again just pursuing and needy.

And you need to find a PRO MARRIAGE counselor. I know you had a church person or something, but you need to research this. I would suggest http://www.marriagefriendlytherapists.com/ call and interview them. Ask them if they are solution based. Stuff that MWD recommends.