I have been where you are. I focused on W actions and how my life was being transformed. eg. I had a plan to pay my mortgage of witnin 12 years, I was saving for my childerens education and investing money for their future. I was very good at that part of the situation but it took time away from being a good husband.
I thought about this whole situation will hurt my kids future.
Once I stopped thinking about saving my M and started to really DB with the 180s and GAL my whole attitude changed.
Start focusing on the positives in your life. YOu will be a great dad, you will be a man of good character, you will survive this no matter the outcome.
gucci and others are so right when they say that the sooner you get to the point where you can detach the better the chance you have to reconcile.
It me too long to get to that point and now as you can see in my sitch, I probably wouldn't take back my W if she ask to work on M.
Don't let that happen to you.
You say the right things in yor posts but don't follow through. Word mean nothing w/o actions to support them.
gr8
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