Affairs don't last long term. It may take him three years but things will get serious there too and he will break and run again.
The thing is piano, you put WAY TOO MUCH energy into worrying about HIM... It's not a healthy marriage to worry so much about the presence of one person in your life who is that destructive.
You didn't marry a bad man? How do you define a bad man then because this guy is pretty close to the mark.
Even IF he came back you need to TOSS HIM AWAY until he GROWS UP
I have mentioned this before on other threads to other visitors here... You can't make a man-child into a mature adult... They have to walk that road you can't walk it for them.
Take all that energy you are putting into HIM and put it into yourself and you will be a very strong, independent woman who HAS the strength to TOSS HIM AWAY when he returns.
You HAVE to toss these guys aside until they grow up... They are PARASITES.
He has way too many damn issues right now to be a healthy influence for you or your baby... He's POISON.
STEER CLEAR until YOU and your SUPPORT GROUP are satisfied that he's grown up... And I don't mean those clowns that put him up for seven months.
If you let this guy into your life before he grows up he's going to to irreversible damage to that baby and mess her up something fierce. You aren't just responsible for introducing people into your life that promote emotional health, you have a responsability to protect your baby from parasites too.
I am not telling you to stop loving this guy. I am telling you to get AWAY from HIM until he GROWS UP.
Think of it like parents sending a problem child off to boarding school... Still love the little guy, but he needs discipline he can't get at home.
You need to cut this guy lose. Someone who is willing to do what he did to you is NOT SAFE to be around CHILDREN OR ADULTS... Stop exposing yourself AND your child to him until he has GROWN UP.
That's what worries me most. Not that he's a problem but that YOU are so focussed on HIM that you are willing to expose yourself and your baby TO someone that is that unhealthy for the two of you. Your husband is nothing short of abusive. I don't CARE what his background is... It's abusive behaviour and you need to start taking responsability for yourself and your baby and STOP letting parasites near either of you. This is a LIFE SKILL.. to be able to say NO to a man because he presents potential HARM to you or your baby. You need to learn to say NO to him. Until you can do THAT then its best that he doens't COME BACK. You have work to do. YOU have growing up to do.
Instead of worrying about HIM, put all this energy into YOURSELF or you will regret it.
You are a mother first... And its time to protect your baby properly.
