joint counseling session in the morning, need help

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Dad1B1g,

It does get easier, but it will take time. Some of it will still be hard, and it will take time for the wounds to heal. You will have to take it each day at a time, and even then, it will be hard.

You have to do as I am learning to do is face each problem one day at a time. Think of what you are feeling is natural and how you will cope with the feelings ahead of time. I have been somewhat successful.

You cannot force "letting go." It is a process that will happen in steps and when you are ready.

I feel the same way about the money situation as you do since I don't have any either. I hope the hearing will help with that. In the meantime, I do things with the kids that do require money, only my time. I take them to the park, Doggie park, Wilderness park, walks, or whatever I can think of to get me and them out of the house. Bring a lunch with you and have a picnic. It is my way to GAL I guess. I give them little things from my childhood too. Or I make things with them such as a boat, or paper airplanes.

Watch TV or spend time with the kids is good too. They will appreciate it. If you don't mind do dress up with D or put on a play or color. Any activities are great to do with the kids.

Just keep busy with them when you have the time.

I agree with not giving up!

You will not see what is happening and that you become more detached gradually everyday.

If you want the M still, it could be following the advice here about DBing or just finding happiness for yourself if it does not work out.

Do let yourself have time to move on with your life with or without her.