I had a somewhat similar post-divorce relationship. A guy I totally adored, but he just wouldn't let me get too close. I called him "the Hermit" to my friends - he's been single for 20 years, I knew going in that he wasn't a good bet for a long-term relationship. But I fell for him anyway.
Eventually he dumped me for his old college girlfriend - I kinda understand that, actually. I watched He's Just Not That Into YOu with my best friend, a whole lot of it rang true. I've been driving around for four months with an index card stuck in the visor of my car that says He's Just Not That Into You.
I've recently gone back online to try to move on. I haven't dated anyone yet, but there is a guy who is a likely prospect. He's out of town on business right now but coming back soon, and we will probably go on a date when he does.
And TOTALLY predictably, the Hermit is making noises now - what do they think, that they can drop you and move on to another woman and you'll just sit there patiently waiting for them to return? He's clearly got some issue with the prospect of me dating another guy, but until he can man up and admit he made a mistake and I'm the one he wants........too bad, so sad.
I don't know what my rambling point is here, except that I'm here in solidarity with you, dating at 54 sucks, but I don't know any other way to find a new love who will appreciate my fabulousness.
