I flubbed. I was sharing a worry/fear with H this afternoon when he (of course) cut me off saying 'well that's not going to happen, first off...blah blah blah..fix fix...you shouldn't feel that way blah blah...'. Well all the lessons I've been learning in how to respectfully share with him what I need to hear went right out the window. Instead, what do I do? I snap at him (not too quietly), VALIDATE ME... STOP TRYING TO FIX ME! Can't you just say 'Yah, I hope that doesn't happen too..'?"

So of course he gets the deer-in-the-headlights-look and paraphrases what I said.

And then we're right back to our old pattern. I feel guilty. After which he heads upstairs - quickly. After which I feel even more guilty.

Yah. I'm that bright.

I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.