Tonight when I got home from work, my D19 asked if I wanted to join her, her boyfriend and S16 for dinner at the restaraunt my WAW and D work at. I had no plans and figured a free meal is never a bad idea.
While we were there WAW gave me money for groceries and when I asked. said she is not coming over to make dinner tomorrow. When we left, she hugged and kissed both kids and then gave me a hug. Instinctively, I hugged her back and said "nice to see you" and "I love you". By the time I realized what I said, it was too late.
Between saying ILY and asking if she was coming over tomorrow, I really screwed up.
One minor positive note: earlier today WAW called me regarding financial issues with D starting university next month. During that conversation, I brought up that I am still paying both our life insurance premiums. WAW is now going to start paying her premiums. May not seem like much, but it saves me $85.00 a month and I made my point calmly and firmly.
I also corrected her when she said something like "you don't like me". I calmly said "I won't allow you to say that - I do like you just as much now as I ever have". I will not stand for her deciding what I think or feel.
