There is something that you may need to know. Tom and I got married. I have not told Tawny, as she specifically asked me not to discuss it with her if it ever happened.
Oh wow. That is cold. Why wouldn't she want to tell her own kids she got married? That is crazy.
Do the kids live with her and OM/new H?
Hi Soleil, She told our son, she didnt tell our daughter Tawny because Tawny told her if she ever married om that she didnt want to know about it because she wont have anything to do with her if she does. However, Carrie has shown a pattern of not giving a rats asss about Tawny over the last few years. So it is not really a shock.
The odd part of this is that there is no change to my sons living situation. I asked her and he will not be there on the weeks she has my son. I am not sure why, I mean they are married, but not going to live together? Seems wierd unless she is pregnant or something
My STBXW has told my girls she doesn't think she'll ever remarry. I think that may be true -- but who knows. I guess that's a bit of pain I'd hope I never have to go through.
I'm not sure how my girls will react to an OM. A few weeks ago we headed to "the house" to get some swimsuits because they forgot to bring them along and STBXW had a guy there helping her get the house ready for sale.
The girls were very, very upset and STBXW had to come up with a bogus story about burning her hand and needing help.
Kids shouldn't have to deal with this.
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I can't wait for the day when my kids find out that mom is involved with OW! Should be fun all round. She hasn't bothered to mention this to the kids in almost three years of separation, but then the girls never have any contact with OW either. I guess if she's gonna act wacko she might as well go all the way!
It is official, Carrie has to be the stupidest bitch ever. Send me an email about how your daughter doesnt want to know if you marry the dude you cheated with. Then go to the restaurant where your daughter works and sign your new married name to your credit card receipt. Genius, she is a fricken genius.
Needless to say, Tawny is now aware that Carrie has married this man. She is pissed, she spent the entire night working as a hostess, seating people, hiding her tears as her heart broke. My daughter is very strong, an amazing young lady. She did not deserve this bullshit and my ex wife deserves to suffer for what she has done to our child. That simple.
Wow, if that isn't absolute bitchy passive-aggressive bs I don't know what it! She managed to tell Tawny she got married without 'telling' Tawny she got married.
And WTF on the new hubby not living there half the time??? I mean I know that as a divorced woman with kids I will have some hurdles to navigate in a new relationship, but I cannot imagine marrying someone and then not living with them? Wack-O batchitt off the charts...
Oh yeah BBJ, she is nucking futs. I dont quite understand it myself. But that has been my life the last 4 years, a lot of not understanding wtf she is doing.
Tawny confronted her via text and she put it off. Cast her daughter aside again as she has for the last few years. Tawny is done with her. That is Carries loss in my opinion.
I believe she thought that I would tell Tawny once she told me, but I didnt. When that backfired she found another way to be found out.
Ian - I am so sorry for T that she had to find out this way; your ex is an insensitive, selfish ass. I wish I had some advice to give....only that I hope that T has her own IC to help her sort out her feelings about all of this.
