Oh, H isn't. We both agree limbo land isn't healthy.I already told him I need time. How much do I need in reality? H is done.Is only a matter of getting the leg sep document written up and signed. Why delay, no point in it. H is done and there isn't anything I can do to change it.I let go. I will be moving out Dec 1st. No reason to delay it.We will see L's soon and once get the sep doc signed, I have surgery and heal, then out I go.If H changes his mind, he could do that. We discussed that this morning. Highly unlikely he would change his mind.
A leg sep is not what I wanted to happen, but I have to RESPECT H is done. H said it would hurt more to stay in this unhappy M than the pain splitting up causes. Someone else on this site said "let go with love". This is what I plan to do. I may not be able to be "loving" all the time through the next very difficult 3-4 months, but I will give it my all to do that. It's better for ME if I let go with some dignity. I will feel better for having done that.
I do not believe there is an affair. Makes no difference if there was, done is done. H said 14 years of pain needs to end. H told me it was hard to say it was over- I believe him because we almost ended it 3 times before. I was able to talk him out of splitting before, not this time. H's decision isn't based on an affair or a whim.
It's useless to fight a WAS's wishes once they are mentally done.
