What a difference four years makes. Four years ago I cooked H a special dinner for our 7th anniversary which was awkward at best, after which he called OW. We were sleeping in different bedrooms, and it was several weeks away from when we finally reconciled. I'd reached a point where I knew I'd be okay, and I was starting to drift away myself as I saw the options available to me if we eventually divorced.
Fast forward 4 years. We already went out for brunch, and H has dinner reservations for us somewhere that's a surprise. He bought a bottle of our favorite wine that was bottled the year we got married, and we're bringing that with us to the restaurant. Our M is really solid--we communicate well and accept each others' faults much better. It's not perfect, but what M is? I don't think perfect exists, nor should it.
Although my sitch worked out, I know that I would have been just as happy and content at this point if it hadn't. The real gift of DBing and the whole sitch was finding my own happiness and strength. I'm glad H is here with me, but I know I'll be fine no matter what.
If you're reading this, have hope. No one dies because a relationship ends, it just feels that way. See yourself past your current situation strong, happy, and alive. You have been awakened from a deep, mindless slumber. The question is, will you take this opportunity to stay alive and awake, or will you seek to stay asleep in the dream? As for me, I chose to live, and so I look back at 2006 as one of the most important years of my life.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
