I hope your position at the MC appt will be FIRM with this, John. This isn't about "control," this is about a perfectly reasonable (considering her multiple past infidelities) boundary that YOU need in order to be willing to remain in the marriage with her.
Yes, and I don't even believe I'll have to be firm about it. Within 15 minutes of meeting our MC for the first time, she was preaching transparency and how important it was in a situation like this. I don't think I'll have to do much talking on the matter.
It was under my conditions that she start next Wed with transparency. Why? Because she's said 1,000 times she doesn't want to do it and it is controlling and manipulative, father fiture, sh*t like that. She doesn't get it and I knew she wouldn't. She'd just think it would be another way I'm trying to control her. So, I told her to talk to the MC about it on Wed to understand more why it is important, so she can feel andn know it's not me being manipulative and controlling.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
