For me, I'm not going to pursue, cling, bake her cake, etc. I'm just going to GAL, do this big 180 where I'm open and honest with her, listening, really listening to her for the first time. Trying to understand it from her perspective, not so I get an edge on her, but so that I can appreciate what she feels.
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I've told her I'm fighting for her, and our marriage. I don't expect anything. I didn't when I first asked her out. Nor on the first date.
Fighting for her and the marriage is NOT "really really listening to her. It is IGNORING her and what she wants. She doesn't want you to fight for her. She is telling you that she wants you to let her go and stop trying to win her one day by chasing, win her the next day by not chasing, win her the next day by chasing again, win her the following day by some new tactic, win her the next day by saying you are not going to be afraid, win her the next day by kicking her out....
No wonder she wants out. You seem to be a tactic a day type of guy...
None of this is going to work. I can tell you that NOW. Women don't respect men who hang on and tell them they are going to "fight" for them when they are giving you the "I am dumping you " message..
You are NOT listening to her. You are just being selfish. She says she wants out. Your best chance is to GIVE her that AND more.
