That was then I dont want to be part off you but i wish thinks are diferent there is nada we can do to fix me or you.. I love my kids and i miss them a lot. so maybe you cant let alex pick them up some day... but i dont want to see you... So if you need something let me know i will try to help from were i am.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
You know damn well there is stuff you can do to fix YOU. (Him, too, but that's up to him whenever or if ever he figures that out)
One of the best motivators I was ever given was along these lines:
You KNOW how you contributed to the state of the marriage. Just your 50%. What your spouse is doing (in my case,an A) has nothing to do with you and NOT your fault.
So, given you know YOUR shortcomings, you need to eradicate these and make yourself a better person/partner. Your goal is to KNOW that your next marriage/realtionship will be spectacular because YOU know the ways to make it healthy -boundaries -KEEP your life -understand what you can and can't control -listening; REALLY listening -etc
The exciting part is you don't know who that next M/R will be with. But you have to prepare YOURSELF for the best M/R you've EVER HAD!!!!
BTW, your strength so far is very good. Keep your view on YOU. What a WAS does is their decision; their consequences. Currently, I am packing all her stuff and getting our house (that I AM staying in) the way I WANT IT!
i was told today that with the way marriages is nowadays that it is expected to have your children be part of a revolving door of men/women in your x's life.
What the heck???Am i missing something? I should expect that when i get married, consequently divorced that expect to have my h's gf's in my children's lives. oh heck no..............
ive been there done that with my 1st marriage.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
well my niece was supposed to come over to watch the kids and let me use her car. i wanted a face to face with h to first of all find out where he now lives, see it, put my mind at ease if i was going to have him or mil watch the kids while at work.
she didn't show up, said her sleep was far more important, good lord i'm up at 430 to get me ready to get the house ready to watke the kids up to get them ready, so i can work as a teacher with no car no phone and NOW no babysitter.
she worked a week and said it was to far not enough money, but she's illegal and now backing out of everything.
so at 930 at night i make a phone call to h, no way did i want to do it, he's all ahppy and jolly, who wouldn't be if you drink all the time, sleep with anythign that will spread their legs, gamble and hang out in vegas, with mommy doing all cooking and laundry.
i am selling my children to the devil so i can provide for them. i have no idea where they will be all day, what skanks will be around them, if they will eat, not sleep on a dog cage, nothing and i'm supposed to take, jstar they will be with me or my family....that's supposed to make me feel ok about leaving my children.
i have scoured the city for someone i can afford, all my coworkers have, sure an offer of $20 an HOUR, i might as well just foreclose on my house.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
