That creates emotional connection when you can withstand her feelings.
Validate her but don't let her tell you what you think, feel or believe.
One of the patterns I'm trying to break is avoiding her intense feelings. I'm trying to hang in there with her, even when it's unpleasant.
This is my first step in establishing boundaries--not taking her opinions and making them my own without testing to see if they are true. My pattern has been to take it as true, feel like a failure, and try harder at doing the same things.
She has frequently in the past asked me to take the lead in situations. Her mind is always going, and she naturally wants to take control of things. I'm learning that if I sometimes take control, it gives her a rest, and gives me a voice in the outcome.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
