You know damn well there is stuff you can do to fix YOU. (Him, too, but that's up to him whenever or if ever he figures that out)
One of the best motivators I was ever given was along these lines:
You KNOW how you contributed to the state of the marriage. Just your 50%. What your spouse is doing (in my case,an A) has nothing to do with you and NOT your fault.
So, given you know YOUR shortcomings, you need to eradicate these and make yourself a better person/partner. Your goal is to KNOW that your next marriage/realtionship will be spectacular because YOU know the ways to make it healthy -boundaries -KEEP your life -understand what you can and can't control -listening; REALLY listening -etc
The exciting part is you don't know who that next M/R will be with. But you have to prepare YOURSELF for the best M/R you've EVER HAD!!!!
BTW, your strength so far is very good. Keep your view on YOU. What a WAS does is their decision; their consequences. Currently, I am packing all her stuff and getting our house (that I AM staying in) the way I WANT IT!
