CNS, I had to post to you cause I feel for you man! Projects around the house. Could not get them done fast enough huh? What is wrong with you? (I am just kidding here)
Bet you did not do them right either.
Realize that the MLC started way before you saw symptoms.
No matter how hard you worked on those projects it was never enough.
That my friend is key. When someone is never happy, never satisfied and makes demands of you, that is not love anymore.
One of her love languages is Acts of Service. You did these things out of love for her and for your own satisfaction too. You get a feeling of accomplishment and put your heart in to it even if it was not something you wanted to do. You convinced yourself that it will make her happy and that will make you happy too. Nothing wrong with that. Been there, done that.
The beast of MLC will kill this in you if you let it. I am talking about the resentment you feel.
Now is where you have to realize that it was not you or your shortcomings in these projects. The MLC'r has to find something to pin on you to justify their horrible actions.
Your new project is: To listen to what grit and lance are saying. The more you get this, the more all of this makes sense. Keep reading and reading.
Be careful of falling into the "If I only could finish this project or two, maybe she will come back" This will grow resentment when she does not give you the appreciation back. She can't and won't in the life form she is in right now.
It was never about the projects. You know it and I know it too.
