I've been meaning to reply to you since you posted on my thread. Sounds like you are a serious biker! What kind of bike do you have? If you have any good pointers for increasing my biking performance, please feel free to share on my thread. Love biking but I have a lot to learn! I have a photo of my new bike in the alt. I was professionally measured to choose the bike and then had the bike customized a bit. The changes that were made made a huge difference in my enjoyment with riding.
Grit, Lance, and punkin have given you excellent direction: detach. One thing that I did when I detached was to begin learning about what makes marriages successful. This made me feel like I was moving in a positive direction for myself and my future while I was detached and allowing H/XH to find his way. I felt that the information I learned would be useful whether or not I reconciled with XH.
Here are some useful links with good information: --www.smartmarriages.com/index.html --www.drbilldoherty.org/
This is a directory of pro-marriage therapists: --www.marriagefriendlytherapists.com/
The book "Intimacy and Desire" by David Schnarch gave me a paradigm for how to build a healthy relationship. I really like the way Schnarch talks about how conflict is normal in relationships and helps to build intimacy when we respond to it in the right way.
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