I decided to make a separate topic about my questions that I have about validation because they don't seem to be (??) the main issue in our relationship and are a sort of an offshoot...
It's more to understand the role of validation and how to do it, rather than something that is particularly connected to my sitch. I am going to put in particular snippets of conversation that I have problems with, but they are more of a template to be used in similar situations.
We were talking about feeling accomplished at work. My H's current job doesn't make him feel accomplished because he feels it's not anything important. Then he said that he doesn't think that his dream career he wants to pursue will make him fulfilled because it's not something important to most and that only few best people actually make a difference.
So I want to validate his feelings, but at the same time I want to reassure him... I want to tell him that it's not true that only the best people make a difference and that what matters is that what he would be doing will be important to him. But that doesn't validate his feelings? If I agree with him though, it just makes things worse.
Please I'm lost!
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
