How ya doin this fine morning? I'm not gong to swing any 2 x 4's at you, because, like me, I know you already know these things for yourself, you just need to have them repeated to you and re-enforced in your mind sometimes to keep from going crazy. The analogy about the house was great MHL. Grit speaks the truth, we can only control ourselves, as hard as that may be. Ever think how a married couple begins to work as One. Each with input and responsiblity. Suddenly, half of the equation goes off the deep end, and neither cares or wants your input or opinion.
Definitely tough on the ego and self respect, but somehow we get through it. You are not asking any questions or feeling any feelings we don't all feel/ask at some point. You are doing great.
