The kids -- unless there was abuse of some kind -- are always, always, always going to want to see the parents back together.
Whenever STBXW and I are in the same room D8 immediately calls for a family hug. It's just sooooo heartbreaking.
D11 was the first to give up hope. Even before I did because she's consistently been asking STBXW why this, why that, and she said STBXW has her mind made up.
That was sad as well. So I struggle with answering their questions honestly without painiting STBXW as a monster. It's so hard. You want them to know the truth, that you still want to be a family and you don't want them growing up thinking that if things get tough you just bail. You also don't want them feeling sorry for you either.
This is stuff kids shouldn't have to worry about at 11 and 8 and it's why so many kids from divorced families have problems later in life.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6