Validate her but don't let her tell you what you think, feel or believe.
Don't let last night be a big deal. It wasn't a failure. It was just unhealthy dialouge that can be improved.
I let her continue to repeat her complaint when I got home, but decided that I wasn't going to let her spend too much time there, as she begins to repeat herself. I did lead the evening plans, as I knew she would get stuck in her negativity. We started the evening off with swimming and practicing the Breast stroke and kick. On the way home we stopped at a concert where a band was playing 60's music. My W wanted to dance, which I tried to accommodate, but I don't Swing or Hustle well. The evening was still young, I didn't want to end on a sour note, so I suggested we go to our late night Salsa venue. We found several of our dance friends there and had a good time.
After our dance lesson at 1PM today, the day is open. There's a Salsa festival about 100 miles to the north. There are no primary dance options for the evening. I may suggest we drog the dog off at her sister's and head up there, even if I have to drive home late at night. I have to be back late morning to go to a baseball game with my brother (which she declined).
My test this weekend is to negotiate our time together to mutual satisfaction, even though I have a Sunday afternoon with my brother, and no typical local dance events to attend.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
