Sad To Be Back 4 Years After The Bust

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Coach, stupid question but how did you go about this quest to learn what women find attractive?

I just realized myself that my W can't have a clingy all consuming man. That's what I had become because she was my everything. As I went through this proceess I became more independent.

As my W saw me not needing her and doing things that she normally did, it caused her to question why she was leaving me. It was my ability to move on and stand on my own two feet that brought her back.

I would challenge anyone in this situation to do this. It's hard as hell to move on and realize that all this counter productive advice is actually great advice. It's the only way to save ourselves first and foremost, but if our spouses are meant to come back, they will. However, if they don't we'll be better people regardless.

I know I never expected mt W to tell me she wanted to drop the D, but she did. It wasn't until I completely detached and moved on that she saw the possibility of being without me.