Grit beat me to it but I was thinking exactly the same thing when I read your post.
This is not something you can control. She will either come out of it or she won't. You must let go and let her work this out by herself.
Grit talks about working on yourself because no matter what, YOU are the only one that you have any control of.
We all need to learn what is happening to our MLC spouses. But we have no control of it. At least not in the first three stages. During rebuilding, there is a little more, but lets not discuss that right now.
The only thing that we can control in the first three stages is to step back and leave her alone. That is your prime mission. The single most important thing. Detachment.
