New to this, hoping for advice

[A_goodman]

It's script, plain and simple. We could all find fault and lay out some twisted case whereby "everything is your fault". Usually there are kernals of truth, but a severe perversion of proportion.

For instance, you ran up our credit cards, so you're to blame for me leaving to hook up with old flames.

Blow that off. All you can do is agree with them. "yep. I agree H. You are not happy and your behavior is unacceptable to me. So I think you ought to go. You want to be gone and I support that. YOU, should file since it is the only way for you to be happy, BTW.

Will you need to store anything in the house while you get set up? I'll make some room for your stuff in the garage. Oh, you don't want to share a house or bed with me? I think that's for the best as well. By all means do go wherever you feel comfortable. As this is our home, I don't feel like leaving. I like it here, so I'll be moving back in when I get back to town. You are welcome to stay, but I understand if it makes you feel uncomfortable. Good luck in your home search.

Be sweet and cheerful, but firm as beadrock.

This stuff sucks for sure, but it's the only way to protect your self respect and maybe change his tune.