Punkin, I see no reason to respond to the email. Your H already knows that you won't decide whether to sign until your L reviews the papers. There is nothing more he needs to know.
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
Punkin, I'm right there w/the other posters, do not respond to the email. He already knows your thoughts on the matter. He's pushing this for one reason only...to get what he wants and now. Don't take his bait. Sit quietly allow this to unfold a little bit at a time while you are waiting for your lawyer to get back to you. There's absolutely no rush in signing those papers.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Consider it unanswered. I know MLC'rs are delusional, but I really don't understand where this hostility comes from. My dil said when he picked up the trunk, he looked inside and said, this isn't the right trunk. It's the ONLY trunk, and I showed her where I emailed him to tell him what was inside.
I haven't heard from my lawyer, and didn't expect to so soon. L knows I'm in no hurry and how I feel about this. H really sounds like he's off his nut.
He's more than off his nut, he's completely cracked the nut and fallen to the ground. Of course, it's the right trunk...but did he listen and/or read what you told him was in the trunk....no!
He's irrational and he's not thinking properly and when they are like this, there's nothing you can do but leave them in the dark. You can't do a thing about him and his irrational behavior. However, you can take care of yourself, enjoy your family and be especially thankful that you aren't in the shape he's in.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Your H's email sounded like he would be doing you a favor by "settling things". I am glad that you did not reply. As far as the trunk goes, and him not "playing that one" .... MLCers constantly forget things, change history, and feel that their LBS's are trying to cheat them. After all, the LBS is now the so-called enemy.
Have a good weekend.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
My STBXH tells me "no, you aren't the enemy".I sure wonder how H treats his friends. Can't believe a word of what WAS's say, they are in pain. I selfishly think, what about my pain. Aren't I half of this equation.
I keep hearing the "If we didn't know each other would we be friends".I sure as h--l know I don't treat my friends as if they are s--t on my shoe or toxic waste. Real friends watch each others backs, and not just when it fits their agenda.
Punkin, thanks for your post. In my limited experience, the reference to "games" only happens when they've played themselves into a corner. Be strong and resist the urge to reply to insecure emails by MLC. Sounds like he's doubting his course.
M / W: 43 D8 S6 M 10 years / T 13 years W admitted EA/PA: 10.6.09 Separated in same house 10.6.09 W moved out 2.27.10
