NM, you won't let S have reuniting fantasies. Parents set that up when they say, "If only your father had done this," or, "I tried, but your mother had her mind made up."
You and I say those things HERE - you DON'T say them to DS!!!!!
And you won't. You are sooooo balanced because you work at it! And DS probably will never appreciate it or thank you for doing the work, but it most definitely will pay off! We only just ever hope that we can learn from our parents' mishaps and neuroses and that our children can learn from ours! But YOU are actually WORKING to make that happen.
(Biggest suck-up post on DB EVER - but I really mean it!!!!!!)
