Husband and I are actually doing good. We have an apartment that we rented but neither one of us moved into it yet (officially). I am still at my parents house and he is at his mother's house. We have started to move our things into the apartment and should be completely moved in by the beginning of September. We have been taking things slow and really trying to address the issues surrounding the affair, dealing with those feelings, and working on our communication (this was a major problem) before the complete move. I have seen REAL improvement on husbands behalf on all of these fronts. We made it through our first big milestone post affair which is seeing OW together. Husband and I got his son that he has with OW (prior to our marriage) for a summer visit. There were no words from her and I had nothing to say to her. Husband was nervous as was I but once we did the exchange it was fine. I will admit that working through my feelings of even having to deal with her is something that will take me a long time to work through. Our Family Therapist said that the situation with them having a child together just makes our reconciliation that much tougher but not impossible :-) especially if husband stays open with me. I am also working on listening and not reacting as quickly when husband is talking and he has been working on not shutting down communication and sharing his world with me completely.
I have rambled but said all of this to say that I am blessed and this is a hard road to travel after your trust is violated completely. Both people have to have a large amount of patience during this reconciliation process because trust is built one day at a time, one moment at a time.
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo
