I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[flowmom]

Hi newmama

Congratulations on how you're doing with your weight and fitness...I know that you've literally worked your ass off .

And your fling...good for you. It sounds like it was really fun. Yes, it's not easy to manage one's expectations, but I agree with you...we weren't designed to be alone as adults. That is not some magical ideal to aspire to, to be complete within oneself.

I believe that a self-aware person can own her mistakes, and move forward with dating/relationships before being "perfectly" ready. It requires eyes open, responsible communication, recognizing problems as they arise, and being committed to tackling them. I am not a big believer in putting off life until one is sufficiently evolved. Most people experience personal evolution through relating to others, and you can't do that work in the isolated test tube of solitude.

Some may feel that I'm "not ready" to date. You know what? I wasn't ready for the years of enforced near-celibacy and lack of emotional connection that I experienced in my marriage.

Grade 2s are really cute. I hope that this will be a great year for you