W went out with some clients who are from out of town. At the same time I was making arrangements to meet a friend that I have not seen for months. I texted her early enough to let her know that I was going to be late. She responded to say that she will be home at 7:30 pm.
She has never been so resolute in her answer so I believed her and proceeded with my plans. I left the house late this morning so I estimated that our 4 dogs will be fine until 7:30.
In the middle of the meeting with my friend around 7pm I got another text saying that the clients want to go for another drink and that she would like to do that. I responded saying that I was out with my friend and politely asked her to honor her promise to get home at the time she promised.
A few minutes later she called and I reluctantly picked up the phone. She was totally irrational to tell me that I should not be late since the friend that I was with never stays late and therefore I should be able to make home to tend to our dogs. I politely disagreed that I will be home when I want to be and the previous promise from her should stand.
She flew off the handle and said that if I was not living in the house she would be coming home first and this situation would not exist. I said that I WILL take care of it, "you're welcome" and hung up.
So here I am, cutting my night short, doing what I LOVE - hanging out with my four legged kids.
How do you deal with this disrespect and neglect towards the dogs that she is expressing?
In previous times she have pointed out that she paid for them and takes them to the vet when needed (her schedule is much more flexible than mine). It is like a child custody battle for us.
I know I am mad right now but I will not show any emotion when she finally comes home.
