anyone moved out when asked? and what was the outcome? Sunday i was supposed to go pick up my son. I'm not sure if I should start a conversation about anything? or should i just leave again? She keeps saying she wants time to think and space...
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
I moved out when asked. Outcome: we're getting D'ed. (He filed, then dismissed, and now we're D'ing). My sitch is diff from yours though. Feel free to read up if you like.
My advice to you is to stay in your home like others have advised.
It's understandable she feels very betrayed by you and all of this has probably been simmering under the surface for a long time.. Transparency is the only way to go, Didthehurt.
Thanks for the reply. It seems a little similar since she left once 3 yrs ago. I want to work as much as possible. She cancelled on the retrouvialle weekend. Said I'm pushing her to hard.aghhh... I believe I have lost all hope and I'm in constant state of despair. Should I tell her to leave if she doesn't want to work?seems against the LRT.
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
Ok I need to know...what is drop the rope? I keep reading it alot here on the site. Does it mean like you can lead a horse to water but not make them drink?
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
For those of you hurting and searching for your answers...
Setting them free is the key... It will also begin to set YOU free...
Love works best when it is freely given..
This means to those of you who have a wayward that your chances to reconcile will be maximized when you really set your wayward free to go. They have to feel that they are totally free.... As Dobson says.. Let the cage door open and let them out...
Funny thing is that once they have their freedom it suddenly doesn't have the same pazazz as they once thought it would. They have been trying so hard to get out of your grasp that they didn't have time to think about what they would feel once they were really free of you.... Think about that
I know this from my own experience with women and from my own observations...
Any thoughts? Anybody looking for help in setting them free? The faster you do, the faster things progress. Not only for YOU but maybe even for the whole relationship...
I have heard many people say "I don't want to look back and say that I didn't try everything"
Have you really tried setting them free? for good?
faith, thanks but it is still confusing....so in my situation would moving out be considered setting her free?
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
I would leave her alone. Go on with your life and demonstrate through actions that you love her. Lots of mention of full transparency in your thread. Leave everything wide open and do not hide anything.
Any pattern that you use to follow when you were cheating on her needs to be completely the opposite now.
Think of it like trying to get a squirrel to come eat out of your hand. You want her to trust you, that you expect nothing in return. NO sudden moves. You just want the squirrel (her) to see you won't hurt her and that she can come back for more.
