If she has anything constructive to share, I'll listen, but won't spend much time listening to her complain about the failures of last night.
A woman needs a man that can listen to her. That creates emotional connection when you can withstand her feelings. She can sense that you think you failed - not attractive - so I would bet she will test you on last night again. Validate her but don't let her tell you what you think, feel or believe. That why you call her out on the "thoughtless" comment, she's mindreading because she wants to know what you are thinking.
It's OK for her to feel anything she wants. You aren't responsible for her feelings.
Don't let last night be a big deal. It wasn't a failure. It was just unhealthy dialouge that can be improved.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
