Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[john28]

I know this dude isn't a threat, and as a matter of fact his girlfriend was there at the bar with him when my wife went.

Sure she was. Just what his girlfriend wants is to have another woman competing for attention. So how come you weren't invited then?

I wasn't invited because it was 10pm and our son was asleep in our home. Although I'm sure it'd be alright to bring my son to a bar at 10pm, I'm not quite sure it would be appropriate

I told her that one of my transparency boundaries would be that neither one of us is to meet up with anyone the other spouse hasn't met and approved of definitively.

[Coach]

or maybe rent "The Great Escape"

I was going to include Steve McQueen on the list but then I was going to have to keep adding to it.

I still to this day can't put ketchup on a hot dog because of Dirty Harry.

[Ready2Change]

Man, I'm so conflicted. I know this dude isn't a threat, and as a matter of fact his girlfriend was there at the bar with him when my wife went. I can't find the line between between Mr. Eastwood and Mr. Controlling.

Mr Eastwood's wife would want to stay home with him and have sex....

[Ready2Change]

If Mrs Eastwood would be disrespectful and talk about going to go see another man, Mr Eastwood would go out, leave his wife to take care of the children....

[PMA_Baby!]

Then he would have gotten drunk and shot everyone at the bar. Oh wait that was Unforgiven

But seriously, whether it's John Wayne or Clint. All women want to feel special and want a man that fights for her.

Next time you would tell her how you really feel. "I'm not going to stop you from going, but I'd prefer spending time with YOU" - then a little GUILT never hurts. considering she said one of her reason was you NOT spending time with her and your son. Go on to say "ESPECIALLY since you mentioned how important our time is together..."

This is a tough one if you are trying not to appear NEEDY. But at the same time. Reverse the situation with you meeting up with a girlfriend. How would she have reacted? Im guessing like a detective. In order for this TRUST to work it NEEDS to be about MUTUAL TRUST and RESPECT.

just my .02

[john28]

Goal for today/tonight:

Finish the transparency talk early, because we agreed to it. Then, GAL all night long.

I need to go to my shop and work on some things. Maybe finally fix the 1982 John Deere riding mower I have. I definitely need to fix the weedeater. Maybe listen to some loud music out there... drink a few beers.

It's all about me tonight after S4 goes to bed. Before then, I'm going to enjoy being super dad.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

She was testing you. And then you helped her get dressed? Blech.

AGREE.

Cuckolding is never very attractive, John.

Puppy

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I told her that one of my transparency boundaries would be that neither one of us is to meet up with anyone the other spouse hasn't met and approved of definitively.

Considering all that's gone on in your marriage recently, John, don't you think that a more appropriate boundary would simply be

"Neither one of us is to meet up with someone of the opposite sex except with both of us there as a couple"?

The way you have it set up now will forever put you in a case-by-case "Judge's seat," having to make a "ruling" every time, and it will be NO-WIN for you. Rule in favor, you're a weak cuckold. Rule against, you are "controlling."


Puppy

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I know this dude isn't a threat, and as a matter of fact his girlfriend was there at the bar with him when my wife went. I can't find the line between between Mr. Eastwood and Mr. Controlling.

John, your wife isn't going to test you with THE REAL THING (another man with whom she is having, or WANTS to have, an affair). She's going to test you with a beta, to see how you respond.


Either way, you failed the test.


Puppy

[john28]

Considering all that's gone on in your marriage recently, John, don't you think that a more appropriate boundary would simply be

"Neither one of us is to meet up with someone of the opposite sex except with both of us there as a couple"?

The way you have it set up now will forever put you in a case-by-case "Judge's seat," having to make a "ruling" every time, and it will be NO-WIN for you. Rule in favor, you're a weak cuckold. Rule against, you are "controlling."


Puppy

Not bad puppy, not bad. But, there a few select people that are of the opposite sex that I'm OK with her meeting up with. They are mutual friends of ours. I think that's what I was trying to convey with the "we both approve of" part of it.